Today’s inappropriately named parasha features the deaths of our first patriarch Abraham, our first matriarch Sarah – as well as the father of the Arab nations Ishmael, Abraham’s son through Sarah’s concubine Hagar. To belabor the point, the haftara features the dying days of King David.
As human beings, we have an instinctual, even innate, fear of death. We don’t know why we have this fear. Perhaps it’s because we don’t know what awaits us when, in the words of Shakespeare, we shuffle off this mortal coil. Our imagination can conjure up any number of conditions into which we will be thrown upon our death, but the truth of the matter is that no one has ever come back from death with proof of what awaits us on the other side.
The Egyptians are perhaps the most conspicuous in their attempt to stave off the inevitability of death through their embalming techniques and in their attempt to achieve immortality through the pyramids.
Scientists today have offered whole new visions of life after death and promise that we can solve the riddle of life in some way in order to be able to live forever. Cryogenics, biogenics and similar fields of research are actively engaged in the search to conquer death and. if not that, to at least seek to extend our lives indefinitely. Some scientists believe that we can live eternally by uploading our consciousness to a cloud computer.
At the same time, scientists are discovering that our bodies go through stages of deterioration as we grow older – as if, like refrigerators and automobiles, we were designed with built-in obsolescence. We appear to be born with a biological clock that begins ticking from the moment of conception. The organs of our body each have a lifecycle and, depending on our hereditary makeup, our environment and our life choices in diet and nutrition, one or more of them will someday fail and, with them, we will pass away.
Some of you may recall the sci-fi movie Zardoz, which came out in 1974, starring Sean Connery. The story features a perfect society of people who have managed to unlock the secret of eternal life. Living in a bubble, they control the outside world peopled by mere mortals, whom they have enslaved. Spoiler alert! That perfection is not what it is cracked up to be and, in the end, the immortals themselves seek death to escape the emptiness of their lives.
In a drasha several weeks ago for Parashat Breishit, I spoke about the false dichotomy between creation and evolution, and suggested that we should look at the one as complementing the other, where creation is the force that drives life and evolution is the mechanism through which creation is expressed in our world. The evolutionary process requires constant change and renewal in order to progress. In the world of Zardoz, the immortals became stagnant, bored, and in the end sought death to relieve them of the burden of immortality.
In the movie Forrest Gump, Sally Field, who plays his mother, is speaking from her deathbed and, explaining to him that she is about to die, says: “Don’t you be afraid, sweetheart. Death is just a part of life, something we’re all destined to do.” In order to evolve, as a species and as a society, death is necessary as a part of what we call the circle of life.
As a society, we build institutions in order to enhance our ability to survive and to extend our reach. Nations and institutions rise, reach a peak, become moribund and fall – a process that sometimes extends over hundreds of years. In the case of the Jewish people, we have experienced this process numerous times, both within our homeland and in exile.
On the other hand, however, Chaye Sarah and its haftara, while describing the death of historically important personalities, also features their continuation and perhaps immortality through their children and offspring. Isaac is given Rebecca and their first moments together are marked by an act of lovemaking. David, on his deathbed, perhaps addled in his thinking and no longer capable of lovemaking, is nevertheless still able to recognize his own mortality and pass his legacy on to Solomon. The parasha also describes in detail the children and progeny of Abraham and Keturah as well as those of Ishmael.
As human beings, we raise families and, if we’re lucky and able to stave off our own built-in obsolescence, we get to see our children, our children’s children and perhaps even our children’s grandchildren. We are fated to not achieve immortality in this life, but we are perhaps able to capture a glimpse of it through them. Chaye Sarah reminds us that while death inevitably comes to all of us, and what awaits us afterward remains a mystery, we are all active participants in a sometimes messy process of the evolution of our people started by Abraham, who had faith in the process despite not knowing its ultimate outcome.
Shabbat Shalom
Don Jacobson